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GUEST POST BY JC AMAH |
There are a lot of things in my life that I feel like I do well. But for every skill I think I’ve mastered, there is always another person that I think does it a little bit better than I. In some cases, this may be true, but in others, it’s due to a helping hand of comparative insecurities that I hold so dear to my heart.
I discovered the hard way that comparing one’s self to the life and
accomplishments of others have a way of making one feel inferior, no matter how
untrue this fact may really be.
For most
of my life, I let the infectious disease of comparison dwell within my heart,
destroying my self-worth and confidence from the inside out.
Read: Mirror war-Winning the battle against self image
Read: Mirror war-Winning the battle against self image
It’s
not a great place to find yourself in, and I wouldn’t recommend you travel down
the road of comparison any time soon.
Comparison
brought my insecurities to a level they had never been before. Instead of being
the guy who was willing to try and accomplish anything that was thrown his way,
I became so wrapped up in the negative thoughts I had towards myself. So much
so, that I eventually reverted to not trying anything new at all. I became
stale and stagnant in life—Uncharacteristic to who I really was inside. I
eventually developed the “Why even bother?” mentality. This mentality as the
icing on top was just a recipe for disaster. Read
I was
being pulled around like a dog on a leash, and the insecurities I encountered
due to constantly comparing myself with others led me farther and farther away
from my worth and value in life. I was journeying through a dark and dangerous
tunnel that would lead me to nowhere near love or life.
Read: Are you ruining your future by this?
Read: Are you ruining your future by this?
The lies of comparison will suck the life out of you, yet so many
of us do it on a daily basis. We compare our looks, our relationships, our
children, our talents, our social status, our houses and even our job titles.
Some of
us do it while shopping at our local grocery store, while others do it
scrolling through the thousands of photos and status updates made by people they
know nothing about.
We love
to compare, but I don’t think we realize the hurt we are doing to ourselves in
the process. We’re indirectly beating ourselves up by picking apart the flaws
we have in comparison to the highlight reels of others. It’s wrong. It’s
harmful. It needs to stop. It’s not helping anyone.
The 4 Lies of Comparison are
1. “I’m not good enough.”
2. “They are better than I am.”
3. “They have more to offer than I do.”
4. “Why even bother?”
Don’t listen to the lies of comparison. It’s never a good idea.
And it’s always going to lead you down the path of insecurity.
We must
understand that everyone has a purpose in this world and that we were all made
differently for a reason.
There
is no partiality in the eyes of God.
When
your worth is found in Him instead of the opinions and comparison with others,
you’ll be surprised to see your lack of self-worth start to subside in your
life.
Read: Benchmarking your worth
Read: Benchmarking your worth
Genesis
1:27 states, “God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he
created them; male and female he created them.” Nobody can steal this truth
from you. You and I were created in the
image of God, and that alone is something to be proud of.
Be who God created you to be. Everybody else is already taken.
It’s time to kill comparison and find our worth in God.
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