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THE PATH OF A DREAM



Everything that ever had an end, had a beginning; and nothing ever reached the end without a pathA path is the link between the start and the finish, the beginning and the end.

Your dream is currently on a path. It is important that you identify what Path your dream is on. If you walk on a path unconsciously, you will definitely reach an "unexpected" end.


Since dreams are an "expected end", then it is not wisdom in action for anyone to leave their dreams to (FATE ) unexpected pathsDreams require intentionality for fulfilment.

 DREAM PATHWAYS

These are CHOICES, RELATIONSHIPS AND SKILLS. Did you see money anywhere on this list?
70% of young people believe that money is the one thing they need for their dreams to move from #paper2playout. I once thought so too. Not until, I began to run the birthplace and its numerous programmes. I soon learnt that money isn't a path for dreams. I will show you its place later.
CHOICES: Choice refers to the act of choosing from multiple options.
You are going to be faced with numerous options. Some of them will appeal to you while others won’t. However, know that THE CHOICES YOU MAKE ARE A PRODUCT OF YOUR VALUES

Read: 7 choices you will regret in 7 years time

What are your values ?

Values refer to those things we hold in high esteem. They are products of our beliefs/convictions and are influenced by how we interprete our environment and experiences. If I were to rephrase the above question, it would be WHAT DO YOU HOLD IN HIGH ESTEEM?

Many young people like Ada, Dapo and Ahmed claim to what their dreams to move from #Paper2Playout; yet, their choices indicate that they hold other things in higher esteem than they hold the dreams in your hearts.

RELATIONSHIPS: People are the quickest path towards or away from the fulfilment of every dream. Relationships are like bridges between the start and the finish; the beginning and the end of EVERY DREAM
Who are your team members?
Don't say, "Excuse me ma, i have not started yet. I'll set up a team when I start."

Read:  How to connect with people the first time

The moment you conceived that dream, you already started! Therefore your team members are those you currently share the dream with. They don't need to have an “official title" or some special designation to be team members
Anyone who directly relates with you concerning your dream is a team member.
Team members have the power to make or mar the dream. Therefore we must be careful who we allow into the RELATE-ON-SHIPYou don’t want to sink!

Read: How to build quality relationships for fulfilling purpose

Before allowing anyone as a “stakeholder " into your "life", first access them against your destination (dream). Ask the question, would he/she lead me towards fulfilling my dream or away from it?

SKILLS: These are abilities, expertise or talent required to move a dream from #Paper2playout.
According to Business Dictionary, A skill is An ability and capacity acquired through deliberate, systematic, and sustained effort to smoothly and adaptively carryout complex activities or job functions.  It involves ideas (cognitive skills), things (technical skills), and/or people (interpersonal skills). 

Read: 5 things you should do differently

Here is the connection; We make CHOICES based on our values; our choices determine the quality of our RELATIONSHIPS and our SKILLS. This is because we invest in what we VALUE.
If you value training, you will go for it. You will pay for it especially because you have a dream. If you don't have the funds for it at that moment? Save up for the next opportunity.

It’s amazing how people spend money on " Education" in a bid to gain skill for their " career dreams" but forget that CHOICES AND RELATIONSHIPS are two powerful equal midfielders in the fulfilment game. 

Critically look at your values. Are your dreams really important to you or you are secretly doing the "birthday wish" fallacy thing?

Evaluate your RELATIONSHIPS. Are they contributing to your fulfilment or killing the dream right there on paper?
Evaluate your SKILLS. How prepared are you for opportunities related to your dream?

Read: 5 simple actions that make a more fulfilling life

Activity 1 - List out 7 people in your life who you frequently communicate with (Mind you, they are your team members). Honestly evaluate their role in your life. How have they contributed to the fulfilment or non fulfilment of your dream? 

Activity 2- List out 7 people in your life whom you are currently helping to fulfil their own dreams (Mind you, they are your team members), How have you contributed to the fulfilment or non-fulfilment of their dreams so far?

Activity 3 - List out 7 skills you need to develop or learn to enable you fulfil your dream. Allocate a time frame against each. The time frame is a reflection of when you intend to acquire these skills



Excerpted from PAPER TO PLAYOUT MENTORING SESSION with Anne Atulaegwu




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