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Women are generally very unique people. Take a good look at yourself and you would agree with me that being a woman makes you “special” among God’s creation.
Now there are 6 different type of women in the face of the world. This classification transcends race, colour, location or even nationality.

1.   The physical woman
She is beautiful and knows it. She is fully aware of the influence of her curves and bursts. She engages them to get what she wants. Her best words are, “If you have it, flaunt it”. She is the girl in the mall who rushes to the ladies to re-apply her make up the 4th time before getting done with shopping. She does this in hope that a man would notice her “flawless” appearance and foot the bills of her shopping spree.
She is an expert at engaging her lashes, lips and eyes simultaneously during a conversation with the opposite sex. She bathes her lashes, feigns shy smiles and engages the on-looker in a shy-not-so-shy-manner eye contact.
She is the girl who will never enjoy wearing a dress unless it accentuates her curves. She also enjoys it when the red sea between her mammary glands shows conspicuously above her dress.
Her Broken Stilettos: She relies solely on her LOOKS to get what she wants. She is an ardent believer of the saying, “Men are visual beings” and she plays on this information to her best gain. 

2.   The Emotional woman
She is the one who longs for more. She weighs every decision against the scale called “how does this make me feel?” Whatever feels good scores the most on her priority list. She doesn’t believe that intuition can be wrong. She is always looking out for how to something or someone “connects” with her emotions and she is good at invoking emotions in others. She sometimes could be manipulative, often using the words “you make me feel bad after all I’ve done for you”. She is in touch with her inner soul and doesn’t mind crying when she feels threatened.
Her Broken Stilettos: She relies solely on her FEELINGS. She believes that people who don’t share her sentiments on a matter are either heartless or insensitive.

3.   The Intellectual woman:
She is an encyclopedia of knowledge. She knows a little of everything and much of most things. She is very logical. There is hardly anything you say to this woman that she doesn’t research. She likes to analyze and hates to be taken unawares.
The wise know that is futile to entertain an argument with her because she hardly ever speaks of what she is unsure about. You are most likely going to lose if you happen to pick an area that deeply interests her.
She never makes decision without being surely sure.
Her Broken Stilettos: She relies solely on her KNOWLEDGE/INTELLECT. She believes that “common sense is not common at all”.

4.   The Spiritual woman:
She is very much in touch with her spirit. She takes every decision making opportunity to the feet of her “God”. She could be Hinduist, Buddhist, Muslim, Traditional worshipper or Christian. She believes that the Spirit knows better and this sometimes prevents her from engaging the “obvious” facts when making decision. She is an ardent believer of the saying, “The spirit must speak”.
Her Broken Stilettos: She relies solely on her KNOWLEDGE/SPIRITUALITY.

5.    The Lethal Woman:
She skilled at combining the edge of her physique, the ingrain of her emotions, the depths of her intellect and strength of her spirituality.
She is understands the value of each of these aspects in woman hood however, she over plays them all to the detriment of others. Her watch word, “Heaven helps those who help themselves.
She could crush anyone or anything that stands in her way. She believes she has what it takes to be the lead anywhere, anyday, anytime.
She is a destructive weapon disguised in a feminine frame.
Her Broken Stilettos: She relies solely on her SELF

6.    The Whole Woman:
She is aware of her physical features. She acknowledges herself as truly beautiful. She appreciates her body and dresses appropriately.
She is aware of her feelings but never let them determine her decision.
She is well read, she embodies knowledge and inspires meaningful conversations with other.
She is fully understands the place of good looks, intellect, emotions and all.
However, what sets her out as a whole woman is the truth that she has a nurturing relationship with Christ. This relationship inspires her. It governs how and where she applies her assets(intellect, emotion, looks and all)as a woman.
She is a life giver.
Her Stable Stilettos: She relies solely on the WISDOM OF CHRIST

Where do you fall?

Each of these women except the whole woman is limited. The physical woman can’t get what her good looks can’t get her. The Emotional woman would lose out on opportunities when intuition fails her. The intellectual woman may eventually come across as “I-to-know”. This in turn would pose a threat to her attempt to build healthy relationship with others. The spiritual woman appears to have an advantage over the others but she really doesn’t. She leaves for God what man she do. This definitely limits her productivity. The lethal woman is skilled but needs to accept the truth that living to please one’s self is a futile life. The best life to live is that which is lived fulfilling God’s original intention for creating us.
Like the whole woman, what these other women need to learn is the truth that life outside a nurturing relationship with Christ is like standing on broken stilettos.
Your gait is unstable
Your ankle will hurt
You will fall
The first step to transitioning from any of the other five to being a whole woman is to

1.    Begin a relationship with Christ based on the Romans 10:9 principle which states that If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
This leads you into a new state of life that positions you for wholeness. Click to See the teaching  on  the Mystery of New Birth Here 

2.    The physical woman needs to understand that her body houses her spirit (her true person) and should be carried in an honourable manner as a royalty would. 1 peter 2:9, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God's special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”

3.    The Emotional woman needs to learn that the best results in life are born from faith in God never by our feelings. She also puts herself in a position where she constantly displeases God. Hebrews 11: 6, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”

4.    The Intellectual woman needs to learn that the arm of flesh/self fails and remember often that God uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise. Jeremiah 17: 5 “This is what the LORD says: "Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the LORD.”
1 corinthians 1:27 “But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.”

5.    The spiritual woman needs to grasp the truth that there is a place for skill and a place for spirit. When both come together, we get excellence. The absence of one brings limitation. She needs to remember the counsel in Ecclesiastes 10:10, “If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed, but skill will bring success.”

6.    The lethal woman needs to submit to the Holyspirit to lead her. This woman readily becomes a whole woman once she yields to the Holyspirit. She should be guided by James 4:7, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”  This will prevent her from being used by the devil as a destructive weapon.

Every woman has these dimensions- looks, feelings, spirituality, intellect and more. We must never forget that these things have their place. A whole woman knows when to pull them from her arsenal but she never uses any in a way that dishonours God or makes her the alpha and omega of her own life or the lives of others. She knows that she is got power but she has surrendered that power/strength to CHRIST and He has become the centre of her life, giving her a balanced gait, a stable life and a constant flow of beauty and wellness.
My counsel?
Make walking in wholeness your priority.
Originally taught at Tamar's Pouch Conference 2016 themed  #BrokenStilettos. Learn more about Tamar's Pouch HERE
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Committed to your wholeness
Anne Atulaegwu


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